Posted by Amy Chua on Wednesday, January 11, 2020 00:08:31 The idea that sex is a bad thing is as old as the world.
There’s been no shortage of books about it since the 18th century, from Marie Antoinette’s Madame Bovary to the works of the feminist philosopher Margaret Mead, who wrote that sex “is nothing more than the sexual relation of man and woman”.
However, while sex has a number of positive aspects, such as the ease with which it can be enjoyed and the freedom to explore it without shame, it can also be quite unhealthy, with the potential for a wide range of negative consequences, from a reduction in the quality of life to a deterioration of sexual health.
These health implications are largely unknown, but a new book by medical writer and sex educator Cory Booker and his wife, the former Amy Chui, offers an exciting alternative.
Sex education is one of the fastest-growing areas of research, but there’s still much work to be done.
Booker, a psychologist at the University of Sydney and the author of The Good Sex: A Guide to Being Sex Positive and Loving It, says the key to sex education is that parents should be informed about all the negative aspects and then be able to help children learn about how to deal with them.
“We know that having a sex positive relationship is good for kids, and that having sex is good.
But the fact that kids are learning that sex can be good or bad is a little bit of a mystery,” he says.
“I think that when we teach children about sex they’re not learning about the positive aspects of sex.
And if they do learn about the positives, then we don’t know how to teach them about the negatives.”
In a nutshell, Booker argues that the best way to teach children the positives of sex is through positive communication, not punishment.
This approach is rooted in a belief that there’s no such thing as a bad sex life, he says, and encourages parents to create positive relationships.
“You can have the most positive sex in the world, but if you’re not giving your child good communication, they’re going to have a bad one,” he explains.
The book follows Booker’s daughter, the now 19-year-old daughter of his wife. “
And then you also want them to have good relationships with each other and you want them not to have negative relationships with anyone, including themselves.”
The book follows Booker’s daughter, the now 19-year-old daughter of his wife.
She was born without any genitalia, and was not taught how to have sex until she was five, when she was sexually active at age 14.
Booker and Chua say they didn’t want to teach her how to enjoy sex, as this was her “first exposure to the pleasure of it”.
However they did teach her about how it was a natural part of growing up.
“In a lot of ways it was the best decision we’ve made for her.
It’s really important that young girls have that opportunity to learn that the joy and pleasure of sex comes naturally and that it’s not something to be ashamed of,” he adds.
“That’s what she’s learning about sex from this book, which she’s already been exposed to in her own life.”
When the book was released, Booker was one of just three people to be awarded the prestigious Merit in Health and Wellbeing Prize, alongside Dr John Buss from the University.
Chua and Booker have previously spoken at the annual Sex Education Awards in New York City, where Booker was also named Sex Education Fellow.
They’ve also been honoured with the “Booker for Education” award, which is given to the best sex education book of the year.
In this case, they were the winner of the “Sex Education Award” in 2017, which was awarded to the book Sex Education: A Good Fit for Everyone.
‘I’m not afraid to be an advocate for sex’ ‘I think parents need to have the same opportunity as adults to teach their children about sexuality,’ says Cory Booker, author of Sex Education, about his daughter, Mia.
“Because they are going to be responsible for their own lives, and I’m not scared to be there, I’m open to be the voice for them.”
His daughter is now 19, and is working to be more sexually active in a “positive” manner.
“It’s an important thing for her to be able, when they are older, to know how much she can have sex and how much that’s okay with her,” he said.
“She’s learning how to respect and embrace sex and I think her life has been really good.”
Booker, who is also a father of two, believes that parents need more than just talking about sex to be successful in